A Few Mental Exercises For Young People

Why are young people quick to feel anger?

Generally, we find a youngster who is disturbed is also angry. He is angry with life. He has the passion to achieve, but lacks direction. He is frustrated at others’ success. He wonders what is missing in him. In such a state, he finds his energy being drained. In his angry state, he is not able to enjoy life. Oscar Wilde said: “Oh youth, what a pity it is wasted on the young.” When one is youthful one has the energy but less maturity; and when one is old one has the maturity and experience, but lack youthful energy. To be able to have both youthful energy and maturity, is a challenge faced by the young people of today. To make this happen one needs a healthy attitude. Attitude creates altitude.

What should be one’s attitude?

Apply the ABC technique: A is for attitude, open and explorative; B is for having a belief which is powerful and not limiting and C is to bring in caring energy in whatever we do. There are two aspects to youth, the physical and the psychological. Physically, a person can be young, but psychologically, if he is not open with a positive belief and without a caring energy, he is old. This distinction is a must for one’s growth.

What should be the vision of the youth?

The vision of the youth should be to be an outer winner and an inner winner. Being an outer winner gives you success and being an inner winner gives you satisfaction. To bring in success and satisfaction in your life is the greatest challenge. To get what you like is being an outer winner. One should have the freedom to choose what he likes. The desire to reach a goal is your freedom. Achieving this goal is being an outer winner. You should know how to maximise performance, you should know how to be a team player, you should have negotiating skills and you should know how to delegate and be a leader. You should be a leader and a follower. You should walk your talk and talk your walk. Talk to yourself and say that you will be an outer and inner winner. Talk to yourself and say that you are always going to be young, mentally. Actions are an expression of one’s thoughts and thoughts are an expression of one’s belief system. To change one’s actions, it is necessary to change one’s thoughts and to change one’s thoughts, one must change one’s belief. The source of one’s actions is belief. If you have a limiting belief, then your life will be limiting; if you have a powerful belief, then your life will be powerful. All successful people achieved success because they consistently held a positive belief, which is not a mere thought but something more than a thought.

How else can one change one’s belief system?

Belief is nothing but a sense of certainty. It can be a negative certainty or a positive certainty; either way it is a sense of certainty. If it is a negative belief, create a doubt in that certainty and then you will find you have destroyed the sense of negative certainty. If a person says that he cannot be successful since he is not a graduate, then he believes that only graduates can be successful. Create a doubt by giving an example that Bill Gates is not a graduate but is still successful. In this way, you break his certainty by creating a doubt.

Tips for better life

Hi,
Tips for healthy life....
1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books than you did in 2007.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
14.. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26.. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
28. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
29. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
30. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
31. The best is yet to come.
32. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
33. Do the right thing!
34. Call your family often.
35. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
36. Each day give something good to others.
37. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
38. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.

Five ways to reclaim the energy you waste every day

Speaking personally, I often wish I had 48 hours a day to do all things I would like to do each day! Yet the main reason we fail to be as productive as we would like is not because of lack of time, but rather because of misuse of energies. Years of ‘practice’ has us spending countless amounts of energy every day doing things and getting into situations that leave us no closer to reaching our life goals. But here are some tips on how to reclaim some of that energy for things that you REALLY want:
1 . Cut down on useless thinking

If we spent a day looking at the nature of our thoughts - mainly worrying about the future or agonizing about the past, often negative against others but more often yourself - it’s not surprising that at the end of the day we feel as if we have just fought our way through a battlefield! At the beginning we get a kind of perverse joy out of negative thinking, but this two-edged sword quickly turns on us and leaves us in a ‘me-against-the-world’ situation, totally devoid of hope and inspiration. The trick is to resist the initial thrill you get from negative thoughts, by remembering how damaging they are. It has been mentioned many times on this blog, but it always bears repeating how a practice of meditation can really help you in this regard, by training you to first still your mind, and then to allow in only the thoughts you want to have.

2. Don’t get involved in situations you can’t handle

Often we overestimate our own emotional strength, and we are more than ready to give free advice to people in difficult situations. And so we often get into difficult situations where the talk goes around and around in unhelpful circles and we end up feeling quite depressed and drained ourselves at the end of the conversation. You have to know your own inner strength and whether you can genuinely be of service to someone. If you can’t, you can instead focus on just being a source of love and support for them in their difficult time (often this turns out to be much more powerful than anything you could say anyway), and perhaps even point them in the way of other people who can help.

3. Take a daily nap

We are more likely to slip into energy sapping practices as the day wears on, and we become more exposed to the stresses and strains of life. A half hour nap here can be ideal for breaking the day into 2 parts, and giving you a new lease of life as you head into ‘phase 2′ with a new purpose and a new vitality. The least productive time of the day is immediately after lunch, as the digestion process makes us begin to feel a little drowsy, so this is the ideal time to lay down the head for a few minutes. It can be for as little as fifteen or twenty minute - you will soon find that your mind is very easily fooled, as it wakes up fully refreshed and thinking it has been asleep for hours.

4. A change is as good as a rest (even better in fact)

Often persisting doggedly on the same task can really drain us, especially if it’s going nowhere. Other times we wear ourselves out by anticipating the mountain of things we have to do, and blowing it up in our minds until it gets too big to handle. Our mental disposition has a huge bearing on our energy levels, and if our mind is getting discouraged from being stuck at the same place, than this will really get us down. Don’t be afraid of taking a break and switching projects to one that you can actually make some headway with. When you come back to your original project, you will be surprised how time spent away from the project has given you a new and larger perspective. And when doing a task, try to keep your focus on that task and that task only, rather than the many tasks that still have to follow on after it. By getting joy out of the process rather than the finishing, you can transform many of your daily tasks from energy draining actions to energy giving ones!

5. Avoid cycles of conflict

In our work life and personal life we invariably come into contact with the same people every day, and over time, we develop a pattern of interacting with them that we naturally just slip into. Of course these patterns also include their fair share of tension and conflict - how often have we gotten ourselves into an argument or some other stressful situation, solely out of force of habit? The important thing here is to watch out for the triggers that start the whole thing off - others negative actions and your own equally negative reaction to them. It can be a very difficult practice learning not to respond in the same old ways, and invariably there will be stumbles along the way, but you will soon notice a difference for the better in your daily environment, and this will inspire you even further.